The Polite Thing

Picture this…you saved up all your money to buy a nice fancy car you have always wanted. You love the feel of the seats, the smell of the upholstery, the way that the engine purrs. You love it so much that you take it with you everywhere, and why wouldn’t you? It’s your favourite car.

One day you drive it to your mom’s house for a dinner party. All your mom’s friends are there and they gush about how cute you look in your new car. Your mom’s best friend’s daughter enters the room and tells you how much she would love a car like that.
You take people out to show it to them. You rev the engine. People love how shiny it is, and they comment on how great it is for you to have gotten it. You spend almost as much time in the party as you do outside admiring your new car.
Later in the evening you notice that your mom’s friend’s daughter has taken your keys and is attempting to drive away. You panic and run out side to stop her. Your mom grabs your arm and says, “Why not let Jenny have a turn? You have to share.”
You get visibly upset. It is YOUR car! Why do you have to share it with anyone? You yell at your mom and say no! But, instead of your mom taking your side she tells you that you are not being a very nice child and that you have to learn how to share your things.
You are outraged! You kick and scream! You are so mad at Jenny for taking your car. No one is taking your side, and worse yet you are being punished for it.
You don’t understand. You are so sad.
People laugh it off and say, “Ah that is life…everyone has to learn how to share.”
But do we? Would you share your car if someone asked you to? Or how about if someone just came and took it….and maybe if you would, what if it was the one thing that meant the world to you…would you then?
Think about it for a second, and then ask your self why we expect our children to share if we as adults don’t….

Post Author: Alisha

While I spend most of my time homeschooling my 4 kids, I am also on a journey to better myself by exploring all the interesting things that life has to offer. I am passionate about human rights, especially in regards to birth, and am an advocate for families and babies.

4 thoughts on “The Polite Thing

    Kelsey Fiona

    (October 6, 2010 - 3:04 am)

    So True!!!!

    Kelly

    (October 19, 2010 - 5:05 am)

    I totally agree!

    Barb

    (November 3, 2010 - 10:46 pm)

    And there is an issue of insurance! No one should take your car without permission! I agree with you!

    Ruth

    (February 19, 2011 - 7:32 am)

    You are taking the situation to the extreme and putting an adult twist on it. Children are meant to be treated like children because they are children. They are supposed to be taught many lessons while growing up and one of them is how to share. Obviously as an adult they will know what is okay to share and what is not okay. If the child does not learn how to share it creates future problems with friends, family and other people outside of their close nit group of people. As human beings we were always meant to share. It is only now in the 21st century where we have become selfish and greedy and wanting to keep everything to ourselves. Learning to share also comes with the other lesson of respecting other peoples belongings. How you raise your children is up to you and I have no problem with you not finding it necessary to teach them how to share. You are a wonderful mother but that is just my opinion.
    Love you.

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