Picture this…you saved up all your money to buy a nice fancy car you have always wanted. You love the feel of the seats, the smell of the upholstery, the way that the engine purrs. You love it so much that you take it with you everywhere, and why wouldn’t you? It’s your favourite car.
One day you drive it to your mom’s house for a dinner party. All your mom’s friends are there and they gush about how cute you look in your new car. Your mom’s best friend’s daughter enters the room and tells you how much she would love a car like that.
You take people out to show it to them. You rev the engine. People love how shiny it is, and they comment on how great it is for you to have gotten it. You spend almost as much time in the party as you do outside admiring your new car.
Later in the evening you notice that your mom’s friend’s daughter has taken your keys and is attempting to drive away. You panic and run out side to stop her. Your mom grabs your arm and says, “Why not let Jenny have a turn? You have to share.”
You get visibly upset. It is YOUR car! Why do you have to share it with anyone? You yell at your mom and say no! But, instead of your mom taking your side she tells you that you are not being a very nice child and that you have to learn how to share your things.
You are outraged! You kick and scream! You are so mad at Jenny for taking your car. No one is taking your side, and worse yet you are being punished for it.
You don’t understand. You are so sad.
People laugh it off and say, “Ah that is life…everyone has to learn how to share.”
But do we? Would you share your car if someone asked you to? Or how about if someone just came and took it….and maybe if you would, what if it was the one thing that meant the world to you…would you then?
Think about it for a second, and then ask your self why we expect our children to share if we as adults don’t….